“It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.” – Bilbo Baggins
Who am I? I am a regular average 36 year old woman currently in the thick of one of the biggest adventures I will ever take – the journey to pregnancy, through pregnancy…and back again.
Why do this blog?
- There is so much information available to us online these days, most of which is medical confusion (I am in the medical field so in no way am I saying ignore your docs!!). But my emotional journey has been helped by seeking out REAL storied by REAL women and couples so that you can align yourself with someone else for even just a second.
- These journeys are not walked on paths paved in gold with Skyrim style clairvoyance to show you the way. There is a real part of pregnancy conceiving and loss that is kept quiet and swept under the rug. And it shouldn’t be.
- I am 1 in 4. I am the 25% who has lost a baby to miscarriage…Twice. 25%!!! There are a lot of us out there who know this path. This is NORMAL this is a story that needs to be told and not hidden away in shame.
It is not easy to talk about loss. It is not easy to admit that you lost something – that’s what miscarriage is. You lost something. You. But YOU didn’t really – there are so many factors, so many reasons and so much more involved than you can fathom.
This blog is my unique journey (which is FAR from over). It’s a way for me to help to break the stigma surrounding miscarriage and pregnancy loss. It’s a way for others to connect their experiences to mine so that we have others who have trod this path with us. So we can feel understood, listened to and that someone else gets it.
I have gone through two miscarriages so far and I write this on the morning of my first D&C experience (my first miscarriage was natural but we shall talk about that later). I have experiences every colour of emotion along with my husband who walks this path with me. You are never alone in this. I hope that this can bring you some reassurance and some real experience.
I encourage you to tell your story – even if it is only to your partner, your Mum or your close friend. Talking really does help and there are so many who can be inspired and soothed by your words.
We are not alone.